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# Lillian Barden

To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world

## Sitemaps

- [XML Sitemap](https://www.lillianbarden.org/sitemap.xml): Contains all public & indexable URLs for this website.

## Posts

- [She Will Be the Twinkling Stars](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/10/20/she-will-be-the-twinkling-stars/) - by Yu Pingan She hasn't left; she will be the twinkling stars, the moon in the darkness, the sunlight shining down upon you. When a gentle breeze blows toward you, that's her wanting to embrace you. She hasn't left; she's just accompanying you in more ways than one.
- [Memoirs, Aging to Saging, and Pepper](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/12/24/bright-light/) - She left a legacy of caring and dedication to truth that lives on in all of those she touched.
- ["You can do this."](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/11/22/you-can-do-this/) - from Cordelia She called me kiddo. She towered over me, but didn’t intimidate me. I know my way around words and she respected that. We spent deeply meaningful time together in many small group settings: A workshop for those considering becoming pastoral care associates, where she reflected that, the older she got, the more she
- [You Got This, Kiddo!](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2025/06/16/you-got-this-kiddo/) - Hi Mom, I hope you don't mind, but I'm adding text to some of your old photos and going to post them here from time to time. You always encouraged people to do their best, and gave them a boost when they needed it. Among your students and friends who shared their memories of you,
- [Memorial Service Video - Celebrating an Amazing Life](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/11/03/memorial-service-video-celebrating-an-amazing-life/) - If you watch on YouTube -- click here -- there are chapter headings in the notes under the video. The video is 720p resolution, so if your player is set at a lower resolution, you can adjust in the video settings button on the lower right corner. We are so moved by the stories shared
- [Mom's Credo](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/10/19/moms-credo/) - by Lillian Barden In December of 1991, Lillian wrote her “Credo,” her statement of beliefs, in a class on Building Your Own Theology. Here’s what she wrote: I believe: In the joy and promise of learning and questioning That discipline and order are necessary for progress That loving and touching are necessary for survival In
- [James Monroe High School  Yearbook 1954](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/10/27/james-monroe-high-school-yearbook-1954/) - from Chris Some pages from Mom's 1954 year book.
- ["the joy I felt to hear that familiar Bronx accent"](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/10/22/the-joy-i-felt-to-hear-that-familiar-bronx-accent/) - from Linda Fredericks Hi Alice, Dan and Chris, I wanted to thank you all for creating this wonderful website honoring the amazing life of your mom, and the mothering spirit for so many of us that she took into her life and nurtured. I’ve only known her one short year through the aging to saging
- [The Cat in the Courtyard](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/10/19/the-cat-in-the-courtyard/) - by Lillian Barden The cat was very orange and bigger than most of the other cats around; I’d seen it a few times in the basement by the garbage cans but never before in the courtyard. It lay among the low bushes alongside the step where I usually sat; I wasn’t allowed to leave the
- [Celebration of Life Service](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/10/15/celebration-of-life-service/) - A celebration of Lillian’s life was held at the Unitarian Universalists of San Mateo, Saturday, October 12, 2024.Thank you to her friends, family and extended family who attended – our family appreciated the presence and kind words of each of you. A video recording of the service will be shared here at a later date.
- [Two Podcast Interviews of Lillian](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/10/15/two-podcast-interviews-of-lillian/) - UUSM's "Connections" Podcast Series These two interviews are from UUSM's awesome Connections Podcast Series hosted by Jac Brennan.
- [She held us together with her tenacity, her constant generosity, her compassion, and her love.](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/10/07/she-held-us-and-many-other-groups-and-individuals-together-with-her-tenacity-her-constant-generosity-her-compassion-and-her-love/) - from Carol Hughan September 28, 2024 Dear Alice, Chris, and Dan, I loved and admired your mother for so many reasons. Lillian was a woman who was secure enough in herself to be a leader, a follower, a writer, a number cruncher, and above all, a deeply spiritual creature. Lillian loved deeply and she loved
- [Tuesdays at 11am](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/10/11/tuesdays-at-11am/) - from Michele Epstein I had the joy of being Lillian’s “Ed McMahon” sidekick on ZOOM during the pandemic’s shelter in place and beyond. Lillian was the highlight and beacon on light for a dozen lonely housebound women over 60 every Tuesday at 11am. It was the first discussion group on Zoom for Peninsula Family Service
- [Poem for Lillian](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/10/09/poem-for-lillian/) - by Roberta Gonzalez Gregg Lillian Barden, facilitator of Lets Talk Coastsiders,showed leadership that never made us fell as outsiders. She reached out to communities in the San Mateo West,by sharing insights that were always the best. We’d grown in fondness to weekly see her smiling face,Zooming us all in friendship to share a well-being space.We
- [Internship Gratitude](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/10/08/internship-gratitude/) - from Rev. Wendy Bartel Lillian was part of the intern committee when i was an intern minister at UU San Mateo in 2008-09. She was supportive, funny, and present as I made my way through a challenging year of learning and growing, as did the congregation. I am so grateful our paths were connected for
- [Lillian was our mom's BFF and an absolute GEM](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/10/05/lillian-was-our-moms-bff-and-an-absolute-gem/) - from Suzanne DuFore Lillian. An absolute GEM of a human being. We will remember her dry sense of humor, her wicked intellect, her generous spirit, and her forever friendship. As our mom's BFF, she provided companionship, friendship, and joie du vivre! She led the Aging and Saging group, the memoir group, and participated in endless
- [Rising from the Muck](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/10/02/rising-from-the-muck/) - from Kathy I was invited to Lillian’s 70th birthday and I said the same thing that day…her life reminds me of the life of a lotus blossom, a Buddhist symbol. Lillian was raised in not so pleasant circumstances. She spent about half of her earthly years like a seed in the muck. Her life as
- [Lillian was funny, honest and strong.](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/09/25/lillian-was-funny-honest-and-strong/) - from Marianne D. I am so so sorry to hear about Lillian's passing. We were at NDNU together for many years, working on the Faculty Union and Senate closely. Lillian was funny, honest and strong. I always knew she would have my back in times of difficulty and that she wouldn't shy away from hard
- [Mom's Refrigerator Magnets and Stuff on Walls](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/09/20/hello-world/) - from Chris Our Mom was pretty picky about her refrigerator magnets, along with various bits of wisdom, humor or encouragement she would post on walls around the house and her workspaces.
- [Beautiful Humans](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/09/22/beautiful-humans/) - from Ada Shen Sending deepest sympathies to Chris and his siblings, and all those who knew his mom Lillian. I think we might have met once or twice, briefly, either back in Beijing or in San Mateo when Chris and I worked there briefly together during yet another bizzaro adventure coming out of China. Mrs.
- [My Mom's Substack](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/09/27/my-moms-substack/) - by Christopher There has been probably not been a single day in her life that Lillian Barden did not write, unless prevented by outside forces. And even in the last year of her life, our mom signed up for Substack, navigated the dashboard workflow, and published her thoughts on various subjects. Her full archive of
- ["But Not Before Coffee"](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/09/27/but-not-before-coffee/) - from Celia B. Dearest Alice and Family, please accept my most sincere condolences on the passing of Lillian; may her memory be for a blessing. I met Lillian when I was nineteen, twenty-five years ago, and I struck gold. She was a friend, mentor, teacher, and counselor who enriched my life in countless ways. Her
- [A Powerhouse of a Woman](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/09/29/a-powerhouse-of-a-woman/) - from Valerie Dubois Lillian was a power house of a woman that I am grateful to have gotten the chance to know. She was a steadfast friend for my mom. She fostered connections, and created support systems for those around her. She encouraged and loved unconditionally. Her leadership and friendship through 'Aging to Saging' and
- [The Good in Goodbye](https://www.lillianbarden.org/2024/10/01/the-good-in-goodbye/) - by Lillian Barden Thanks to Rev. Tovis for sharing this, from 2017, something my mom shared with the congregation.

## Pages

- [Share A Memory, Story, Photo, Whatever.](https://www.lillianbarden.org/share/) - We know that our mother touched many people’s lives in different ways, and she cared deeply about so many of you reading this. She loved her friends. She loved the communities she enjoyed over her long life. We welcome our mother’s friends, relatives, students, colleagues to share memories, funny stories, quotes, photos, art work, condolences,

## Galleries

- [James Monroe High School Yearbook 1954](https://www.lillianbarden.org/envira/james-monroe-high-school-yearbook-1954/)
- [Celebration of Life Service](https://www.lillianbarden.org/envira/celebration-of-life-service/)
- [Envira Test Gallery](https://www.lillianbarden.org/envira/envira-test-gallery/)

## Categories

- [memories](https://www.lillianbarden.org/category/memories/)